Cracking the code of an avoidant lover can feel like deciphering an ancient language. They crave connection, but fear intimacy like a phobia. So, how do you know if an avoidant actually loves you, despite their seemingly detached behavior?
Look beyond grand gestures. Avoidants show love in subtle, practical ways. Are they consistently there for you in a crisis? Do they remember small details about your life? These acts of service often speak louder than words.
Another key indicator is vulnerability, however small. Do they share personal stories or anxieties, even if briefly? This cracks their carefully constructed wall and signifies trust. Pay attention to their body language too. Do they maintain eye contact (sometimes), lean in when you speak, or display subtle signs of affection like a gentle touch?
Most importantly, respect their boundaries. Pushing for too much closeness too soon will only trigger their fear. Patience and understanding are crucial. If they're consistently present in your life and show subtle signs of vulnerability, chances are, an avoidant loves you – they're just navigating their own internal battle with intimacy. It's a marathon, not a sprint.
